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May 22, 2008

Nina Atwood's Ten Dating Traps You Must Avoid

Mr. No Touchy-Feely e-mailed me yesterday evening, saying he has a rehearsal tentatively scheduled for tonight but will try to call me after he gets home.

In today’s Metro NY newspaper, I learned about SinglesCoach Nina Atwood, whose web site is http://www.SinglesCoach.com Her theory is there are ten dating traps that women can fall into:

1) Denying your true desires (i.e., agreeing to have a no-strings attached, no commitment type of relationship when you actually want a serious relationship)
2) Loving a wounded guy (this is the one I tend to fall into: “your loving heart is drawn to him as he shares his life struggles. You want to believe your love will heal him, draw him into a commitment that he’s been unable to give…[but] when it is time to make a commitment, he crumbles.”)
3) Dating without integrity
4) Choosing high risk relationships
5) Getting sexual too soon
6) Rushing into relationships
7) Settling for less
8) Taking the lead (not sure what this means)
9) Aiming for the fairy tale (not sure what this one means, either)
10) Sacrificing your authentic voice

Atwood has a bit about 1) and 2) on her web site, but for 3) through 10) it seems you have to buy her book, “Temptations of the Single Girl: The Ten Dating Traps You Must Avoid.” Her web site makes for good reading, though. She weighs in on Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon’s recent rush to the altar (“marriage is a sacred covenant between two people, and I hope Mariah’s is for real. But it’s much, much better to pace a new relationship, give it time to grow deep roots, and then marry.”). She discusses whether you should forgive a cheater (forgive, yes, but stay in a relationship with him? It depends). She even has an article on “The Art of Pursuit for Men.” Interesting.

I’ll be busy this weekend at my friend’s wedding, being her maid of honor! :) so I won’t have a chance to post again until Tuesday. A marvelous three-day weekend to you all!

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